Rockin' the beer gut--confidence in yourself

I listen to all types of music and I've heard this country song "Rockin' the Beer Gut" off and on for several weeks now, sorry I don't know the artist who sings this. It's a very catchy song, but while at work the other day I was really listening to the lyrics. Contrary to what some may think the lyrics mean, my interpetation is that she's confident in the way she looks. She's apparently got extra weight in the stomach area, but instead of covering it up and being ashamed of how she looks, she's showing it off. That's being self confident in yourself and loving yourself for who you are. Everywhere we look these days, magazine after magazine, infomercials after infomercials, try to convince us that we need to be thin and well sculpted. Well excuse me for being average. I've never been a size 6 (except maybe when I was 6 yrs old ) and I'll never be a size 6, so I accept who I am and how my body looks. I've tried the "going to the gym" thing to look better for my husband, but what did I get instead, I continued to be ignored and a body that looked like a bulldog. I was working out for at least an hour, five days a week for several months. I didn't like what I saw in the mirror. There wasn't anything feminine about the way I looked and there wasn't any weight loss either. Of course they will tell you that muscle weighs more than fat, and it takes muscle to burn fat. Well I think my muscles and my fat became best friends, cause the muscles got bigger, but the fat stayed around like an unwanted house guest. I was so unhappy when I saw myself like that, I gave up on the gym and beating myself up about the way I looked. Once I decided that I didn't need society's idea of what we needed to look like, I felt better about myself and my body. I realize that the real me was on the inside and the outside was just a package. There's some people that only look at that outside package and they are missing out on the real person. This can work both ways though. I've seen some really great looking people in my lifetime, males as well as females, but once you talked to them, the real person came out as arrogant, self centered, egotistical, catty and the list goes on. To me these people were no longer good looking, maybe on the outside, but the real them wasn't. I'm saying that we all need to look at ourselves on the inside and accept what we are on the outside. If you're not happy with how you look, well my advice to you is have a check-up from the neck up. I'm not saying that if you're obese to accept your body the way it is, that needs to be addressed for health reasons( it could save your life). There again, if you take time to look inside yourself, you just might find out what is going on with you that you comfort yourself with food. Talk to a friend that you trust, to help you when you're going through whatever it is that is causing you to eat. Get yourself a support group (these should be people who know you and want to see you succeed). If you don't have this and feel comfortable with strangers, then check your local phone book for these types of groups. We all should feel comfortable with ourselves and let our inner self shine. You will be amazed at how your life will turn around for you when you let this happen. Life is too short to be unhappy (that's why the husband is now my ex). God didn't put us on this earth to be unhappy. Were that the case, we wouldn't have blue skies, different colored flowers and green grass in the spring and all the beautiful, different colored leaves in the fall. Even if you don't like snow and ice, you have to admit that to get up in the morning to a blanket of snow, everything looks so clean and fresh. To me it's so beautiful to see ice on the trees and power lines, when the sun hits them, they sparkle like diamonds. It's really breath taking if you get past the negative idea of " ugh, more ice or snow". So you see God has blessed us all with his gifts, it's up to us whether or not we choose to see the beauty or to be so self absorbed that we take it for granted and see the negative. He loves us all, no matter what we look like and we should love ourselves too. I've heard that you have to love yourself, before you can truly love someone else and they return that love. I believe this, you have to be open to love in order to receive it.
If I've offended anyone with my posts, I apologize, these are just my thoughts and opinions.